“Why” you do what you’re doing?
Is it because someone asked you?
Is it because almost every mother you know does it… is doing it?
OR Is it because you know what’s best?
Have you decided and planned what you do because of love?
“Why” you do what you’re doing? I’ve learned from our Senior Pastor that “you do what you’re doing because you love it. You’re passionate about it.” At some point, there might be circumstances in your motherhood that you dislike but since your baby means the world to you, you push your 100% to give what’s best for your child.
A lactating mother nurturing her baby by either breastfeeding or expressing breastmilk regularly is pure commitment. Sustaining your baby’s needs is commitment
COMMITMENT = LOVE!
On that note, HAPPY MOTHER’s DAY!!!
I’ve recently witnessed breastfeeding journeys this year (2017) worth sharing:
I’m seeing a second-time mom for more than 10 months and counting. She is a prominent equestrian. She juggles her schedule. She attends her daughter’s school activities; her husband’s medical condition; some personal/business matters; practices/competitions with the horses; her baby’s needs (direct feeding of 90%); and travels (abroad/domestic) etc. The most challenging of all: She’s having lumps/clogged ducts and milk blister.
Wheeew! I really admire her! She just recently had an accident falling from her horse during practice and hurt her arm. She always needs to travel abroad with her baby but she still is doing direct feeding and pumping her milk twice while her left arm is not functioning well.
Now, why is she doing, what she’s doing? With a smile she said, “I know that it’s for my baby’s health and I enjoy doing it. She smiles at me whenever I’m nursing her and playing with all my pendants.”
I’ve been seeing a first-time mom for 6 sessions and she was referred to me by one of my clients, her sister-in-law who has severe engorgement. At the 3rd session, her husband asked me if her wife can sleep 8hrs at night without having any clogged ducts /lumps or mastitis or not even decrease the milk supply. I simply explained that I cannot give assurance because it depends on how her body will adjust. We can try avoiding it to happen as long as she will do the regimen that I’ve recommended her.
Few weeks after the 3rd session, I received a call and was requested to see them again. She got lumps and feverish. This time I was told that her wife had an epileptic incident before she gave birth. It happened when they’re walking in a mall and knocked his face off which led her to have stitches on her mouth.
Another incident happened during the time that she was nursing her 4-week baby.
A question pop in my head, why does she need to do it, she can just quit? Because she knows that breastmilk is the best for her baby’s health.
I also admire the husband for supporting her wife despite the risks. We’re all trying to keep things light and plan things out for their direct feeding goals.
Another first-time mom I’m seeing for more than 10mos. and counting, recently got bleb (milk blister) that can cause clogged ducts/lumps or inflammation that can lead to mastitis. It was quite rare that in less than a week, it reoccurred. She went to see a doctor to have it pricked.
Why is she still breastfeeding despite the fact that one of the doctor she’s seeing told her to stop breastfeeding? She told me, “I want to make sure that I complete providing her milk in 12mos.
Another first-time mom that I’m seeing for 3mos (saw them in the hospital in less than 24hrs after giving birth), I was referred by her friend that I’m seeing as well (both of them are Chinese expats). She decided to do pump exclusively so I gave her regimens and regular pumping and power pumping schedule as she’s telling me that her milk supply is not enough for her few days old baby.
I was seeing her 2x to 3x a week due to engorgement and lumpy breasts. Telling her to be a bit patient and endure the challenges if she can still try do direct feeding. Told her and gave her the assurance that her milk supply will increase and she can even donate some soon…
She just smiled and said, “that’s what I want”. Received SMS on a Sunday and told me that she’s in pain and her left breast is turning red. Requested her to take a photo so I can observe and because the image was blurry, I advised her to consult her doctor for assessment and see a breast surgeon. Saw her Tuesday afternoon and got an appointment to the breast surgeon.
The doctor saw the red area on her left upper breast with a pus (looks like a pimple) and half of her right breast is red. Told her might be because of it… Seeing a breast surgeon is advisable to this kind of situation.
Saw her a few hours after seeing the breast surgeon and good thing that her inflammation has nothing to do with abcess. A couple of weeks after that incident, she donated bags of milk to one of my clients.
Why is she doing what she’s doing? She told me that she wants to make sure that her baby is healthy and happy.
My last story for today is about 2nd-time mom that I’m seeing. She called me a week before her son turns 1 year old. Wow! Pure breastmilk for more than a year this time! Even she’s exclusively pumping in less than a month as I gave her 4x a day pumping scheds and had a few emergency of having lumps but not much a challenge compare with her first born. Saw her for cleaning and clearing of some lumps and discussed the weaning /deleting 1 pumping without having any problem like before.
Why is she doing what she’s doing? She told me with a smile and sense of fulfillment with mix of a bit sadness of stopping it… I enjoy doing it and seeing my son nurtured, healthy, and happy is my joy!
I have witnessed so many breastfeeding journeys and I asked myself: Why these moms do what they’re doing?
- Why some allows their babies being over-fed by their yayas?
- Why some listens to so many advices and not just have their own natural thing?
- Why some give up so easily?
It’s always the decision and choice of moms on how they want to raise their babies which is something that I would not judge but will give my recommendations when asked. I equally give my best to all these moms whether they have one or more sessions. Even by text, email or phone call, I will be there to support.
As a breastfeeding coach, I’m always here to listen, assess, support, assist, and help as well as to cheer moms and babies!
That’s Why I’m Doing What I’m Doing: Seeing moms and babies for nearly 11 years!
Will post the link very soon!
Again, to all the moms out there, Happy Mother’s Day!